Fall is in the air, or should I say: Fall is all over social media. I feel like all I see anyone post about these days are pumpkin spiced lattes and Halloween. Growing up in Southern California I never experienced a true Autumn until I moved to North Carolina, even then I longed for my favorite Spring and Summer.
This year something changed, despite not being on the pumpkin spiced flavored anything train, I'm excited for Fall! It's mostly due to Easton and getting him to experience things at this fun age with him and partly because I got some cool new pieces of fall clothing. Even though the first day of Fall isn't until September 22nd, I'm planning ahead with an Autumn Bucket List that I'm excited to share with you...
It's National Breastfeeding Month and I have been so inspired by all the women sharing their personal journeys with breastfeeding, especially everyone working so hard to end the stigma surrounded by feeding their babies in public. News flash: there should never be any shame placed on a woman for feeding her child when they are hungry no matter where they are. I've celebrated all the other moms from the sidelines and today I wanted to share my experience with breastfeeding and where my son and I are with it today...
I'm curious, how long after a woman gives birth can she claim it's still the baby weight she has to lose? Is it within the first six months, a year? How long will it take me to be honest with myself and admit that maybe the extra weight I'm carrying might no longer be baby weight, but weight from lack of exercise and unhealthy eating habits?
Yes, my blog is called honest momma, but I'd like to be clear: this is not a parenting blog, not really. Sure, there will be many posts dedicated to my life as a momma: the highs, the lows, and all the in-betweens. But honest momma wasn't created with the intent of staying on one subject. It was influenced by one way I identify myself, as a mom. I am, however, more than just a momma.
I am a woman who has walked this earth for 27 years. I am Jade and I love myself for who I am. I love Mexican food and binge watching The Office when I can't settle on anything else. I become obsessive when introduced to new things in life. I love musicals. There are times where I struggle with myself and feel lost, especially when it comes to figuring out what to do with my life. But for the most part, I'm comfortable in my own skin.
I am a wife. I've been married to my main man for over two years now and we're going on six years of being together. I met him when I was 21 and he was 45 but more on that later...
And lastly, and not because I think of it in last place but because it was the last thing I became, I am a mother. In a season where I felt so lost with myself and my identity, giving birth to my son and raising him gave me a purpose. On the many, many days where I doubt my abilities as a wife and struggle with myself, my role as a mother has held steadfast. But if we're being honest here, which I always try to do, there are days where I doubt my abilities as a mother and that's okay! That's life. And I love being a momma, I revel in it, I know I was made to be Easton's mom. But I will always be more than just Easton's momma.
I strongly believe that women should never be placed into one category or boxed into one identity. Women should not solely focus on their children and lose sight of who they really are at their core; we are wild, funny, honest, creative beings that should be celebrated for those reasons and more. Society might tell you that ideal is selfish, but it's not. You are a person first and mom second. You are honest momma.
Also huge shout out to my friend, Rachel, who so graciously helped me with this post!
I'm a twenty-something mama who honestly has no clue what I want to do in life at the moment. For the longest time that scared me but now I embracing it and documenting it here.